From the Desk of Dr. Ted - Innate Communication – Going with your gut!
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Listening to the inner voice isn’t an exclusive right of the chosen few. Nope, it’s not even reserved for those with financial freedom. It’s more like a gift we always have had, yet most often failed to recognize. You don’t have to take lessons to use it, don’t need to attend a church to find it, and don’t need to get permission from anyone to tune in to it.
Listening to the inner voice is as natural as childbirth, and as easy as riding a bike. It’s about the actual calming of the conscious mind, and thereby allowing the subconscious feelings and pictures to evolve to their fullest potential. It’s right there inside of your being, not so much your head!
It’s about the inner truth we all "feel" at times, yet often override with our thinking. Yes, we think ourselves right out of the truth and right into the mental process. We all do it to some extent every day.
"Gosh, I should have listened to my gut on that one!" and "Wow! I knew it wasn’t going to work out that way because I could just feel the other way was better!" These are the signals we aren’t paying attention to the inner voice, which ultimately will guide us to the solutions and experiences we so desire – and yes, deserve.
I work every day to let go of the headiness I so often rely on and to instead listen to the deeper and more truthful "feel" of the experience. Try it; you’ll be glad you did!
Dr. Ted
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From the Desk of Dr. Ted – She was just 17!
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She showed up at the office as a referral from my son, Phillip. Actually she is 18, but the song didn’t match for 18!
Anyway, "Kelly" had a grimacing look on her face as she entered the room. She started the story with "This is the worst pain I have ever had in my back and it won’t go away!" Now for a young girl to have this much pain seemed a bit unusual to me.
I began by asking a few questions to get my mind around the situation fully. How long, how severe, how often, what makes it better, and worse? Does the pain radiate to your legs? Do you have any trouble with bowels, bladder, periods?
And, the answers didn’t lead me to anything conclusive at all. It was as if her head and body were completely disconnected. By that I mean that her physical condition was disassociated completely from her thinking. She had no idea as to why it happened or what was wrong. She seemed almost a victim of the pain. Like she expected it all along?
Then she let it slip! She gave me the key to the castle, so to speak.
In passing as she was climbing on to the table, she said, "I hope this isn’t like my mom’s back!"
Stop the presses!
We have a situation here, which needs a deeper investigation than I had thought.
"My mom has had two surgeries for discs in her back and continues to have pain and limited movement!" Now, let me tell you, this got my attention. Not so much the idea of family tendencies, genetics, and all that bunk, but the idea that Kelly was programming her mind to achieve the same pattern her mother was experiencing. Her pattern was solidifying every time she felt her pain in her back. And she felt the pain constantly. Kelly was living in a state of total fear…fear of having a "bad back" just like her mother!
Her pain was simply a pattern of pain she had become to accept, just like dear old mom.
I balanced her body, checked her legs and cleared several feelings. Her pattern would be different forever, and she was amazed at how much better she felt right there on the table.
I asked her to go for a short walk, which she did with ease. She returned with a satisfied look on her face and yet some degree of concern. "I just want to be able to bend over without pain in my back"
To which I said, "Go ahead!"
She slowly touched her toes and rose back up with a huge smile of relief. It doesn’t hurt at all she exclaimed!
We changed her pattern at 18 years old…forever!
Dr. Ted
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Better Communication – Stronger Relationships – Happier Future!
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When any two or more people communicate, the possibility for conflict exists. Conflict itself really isn’t a problem, but how that conflict is handled just might be. Disagreements and misunderstandings can be sources of anger and distance or they can be the springboard to a stronger relationship. Effective communication is the key to creating the positive outcome.
There are some basic tools for effective communication that sound simple, but aren’t always easy to put into practice. But practicing with these tools – giving them your specific focus, could really pay off as you improve your communicative abilities.
1. Listen carefully. You often think you are listening, but you are really thinking about what you are going to say next. While your partner is talking, listen only! Don’t interrupt. Don’t get defensive. Hear them out and reflect on what they are saying before you begin to formulate a response. You’ll understand them better, they’ll know you heard them, and they’ll be more willing to listen to you, too.
2. Try to see their side of things. Most of the time, we are so busy trying to make sure the other person understands where we are coming from that we don’t spend any time trying to understand their point of view. Try to really see their side. If you don’t «get it», ask more questions until you do.
3. Understand your responsibility and own it. Effective communication involves being honest with yourself and admitting when you are wrong. If you both share some responsibility in a conflict (which is usually the case), look for and admit to what’s yours. This creates trust and can inspire the other person to respond in kind, leading you both closer to mutual understanding and a solution.
4. Look for a way for everyone to win. Instead of trying the «win» the whole argument, look for solutions that meet everybody’s needs. This is much more effective than one person getting what they want at the expense of the other person. Healthy communication involves finding a resolution to a conflict that both sides can be fine with.
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Interference In Your Internal Communication System
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We all know what interference is. It’s something that gets in the way, breaks up the flow or keeps messages from getting through. When you are going toward your goal of health, happiness and success, internal interference can certainly be a pain – literally!
In your body, interference keeps two or more systems from communicating clearly. The interference can be in internal communication between your "central intelligence" and your multiple systems, or the interference can be in communication between your energy field and the rest of your body. No matter whether the interference is in field or body, the problem lies in the energy flow.
In your body, interference in communication is like static from a radio that isn’t tuned in to a station. When the many fields of the body resonate in harmony with Universal Intelligence, signals pass freely and clearly between internal systems and between body and field. When the body’s resonance is "out of tune," internal messages and messages to and from the field are "garbled." If the resonance of the body and field are not in tune, "operating instructions" in the form of signals from the field to the body are interfered with. Prolonged interference means continuous garbled messages. But the body is going to respond to signals, garbled or not, for survival. The signals are inappropriate; the responses are not. If inappropriate or garbled signals continue, the same organs and systems must continue to respond. Eventually, the affected organs and systems will get tired. Enter pain, symptoms, and disease.
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Now You’re Speaking My Language! by Melissa Higby
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How many people out there have the "perfect" marriage or relationship right now? What relationship couldn’t use a little help? I am one of those people who thought my relationship with my husband was pretty great, but I had heard of this book, "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman and was intrigued by the concepts.
I learned that this book is really about communication in general. Here is a list of the Five Love Languages and a short description of each one.
- Words of affirmation: Verbal and written appreciation speaks volumes to people with this as their primary love language.
- Quality Time: Sharing experiences, having a meaningful conversation, taking a walk are the things that speak love to people with this as their primary love language.
- Receiving Gifts: If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure gifts as an indication of love.
- Acts of Service: Doing those little chores around the house, like making the bed, taking out the trash, a load of laundry sings "I Love You" to people who demonstrate this as their primary love language.
- Physical Touch: As the name implies, this is demonstrated through different forms of touch, such as handholding, a hug, as well as intimacy.
Most of the time we respond to others by demonstrating our primary love language. For instance, my primary love language is Acts of Service. So, I naturally do the little things for my husband such as prepare his drink for dinner, or making a special meal for him. While these things are always nice things to do and I do them because it is my way of saying, "I love you" to him, they fall on deaf ears because his primary love language is Words of Affirmation. So, no matter how many little things/services I do for him, he doesn’t get the message because all he really wants is for me to say how much I appreciate him and love him.
I have been amazed at the transformation the application of this knowledge has made in all of my relationships. I find myself evaluating acquaintances to determine their love language, so that I may communicate with them on their level. When you communicate with someone on their level, they actually hear what you are saying to them and are able to receive and process that information the way you intended it.
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