I have a suggestion to begin the process of training yourself to make the correct choices a far easier task.  Rather than becoming overwhelmed with challenges, if we would just take it one step at a time, it’ll be much more attainable.  At least it becomes more palatable!  So, how do we do it?  Where do we start?

Start with the easiest task first.  Make a list beginning with each of the six essentials and what you are willing to do to make a change in each one.  Pick something from your list which is not too hard, yet a bit of a stretch for you.  Then muscle test yourself, or have someone do it for you, to see if it is congruent with your beliefs.  Pick just one of the essentials to begin with.  You might be surprised at the outcome!  It’s very easy.  Just think of the essential commitment, and then check your strength.  Are you strong?  If not, work on it by focusing on your solution and feeling positive about it and get treated right away, or do the new Emergency B.E.S.T. procedure on yourself.

Once you have cleared the sub-conscious mind of the feeling associated with the challenge, commit to it full on.  I mean, no matter what gets in the way, you agree to follow this new way of treating yourself at 110% .  Yes, no matter what, you will not deviate from this promise to yourself.  Then, as it becomes a habit, take on the next essential.  Keep building your “internal muscle” to a better life and more vibrant health.

This, my friends is the best way to better health, better relationships, and better wealth!  It’s really all about the choices we make.

When I think of balance with B.E.S.T., I am reminded of the importance of achieving physical balance at age one.  At that age, we are just learning to walk and don’t have much balance in even simply standing, so we hold on to things to stabilize ourselves.  Every time we attempt to stand and walk, and then fall down, we are creating new neurological pathways.  We finally accomplish standing by trial and error, and as we do this, the appropriate pathways are developed.  So now, we are able to activate those pathways and just get up and walk without falling down.

As we become aware of the stresses of life and respond to them, we begin to establish alternate pathways to those that were established at age one and two.  Then, when we receive a B.E.S.T. adjustment or balancing, which re-establishes the original neurological pathways, we appear to lose our balance and may even be dizzy when we stand.  Even worse, sometimes we can’t even walk correctly with normal cross-crawl contralateral physiology.

Balance and B.E.S.T. go hand in hand.  And, negative thinking is greatly involved with the stress that causes us to deviate from our original design – those original pathways.  Using our positive feelings chart, we can neutralize the energy of negative thinking to re-establish normal balance of walking.  But, balance in your life is much more than just walking correctly.  You must maintain some balance between your  professional life and your personal life in order to maintain your body’s timing and thought balance.  There is an old expression that goes, “Be where you are boy!”  What it means, simply, is that you must learn how to live in the present with your thoughts and feelings.   Balance must exist in all aspects of your life, and this is accomplished as you control your thoughts and make them totally apply to whatever you are doing, right now.  It takes constant effort to be positive and present all the time.  However, the outcome is well worth the effort!

My husband and I made the trip, and spent the day enjoying the sights of Hot Springs until the time came for my appointment with Julie.  We found Julie’s home nestled in the beautiful Historic District of Hot Springs, and I made my way to her door.  Julie met me at the door ready for her treatment.  We discussed how her treatments had gone in the past, and I explained that it may look a little different since there have been some updates to the technique.  She said she was looking forward to the experience.

We went to work right away.  I observed that her right leg was about two inches short, and mentioned the observation to her.  She said, “Do you think it is because my bed is squishy?” I smiled and said, “No, when we are finished here, your legs will be even…squishy bed and all.”  The first category we worked on was Mental.  I told her to think about a Recurring Thought and showed her how reactive this thought was to her.  We cleared that for her, and immediately her legs were even.  The next category was Beliefs, and the feeling that came up for her was “happiness”.   This broke the dam inside of her. She began to sob. I explained to her to let the release happen, to let go.  We waited a few moments for her to be with that release and went to work again.  Throughout the treatment, “happiness” came up for her several times.  This was a big deal to her.

I treated her for about fifteen minutes, steadily clearing all of the things she wanted to think about consciously.  Then, I asked her to focus on the area of her heart.  Again, “happiness” surfaced and again the dam broke.  This time it took a little longer for the release to dissipate.  While this was happening for her, I simply held her feet in my hands to help her feel grounded, and humbly witnessed the miracles occurring within her.  I checked her for homework, and journaling came up around “happiness.” I explained to her how to do the journaling homework, and we discussed the steps of forgiveness.

When we were finished, she sat up and went for the short walk I sent her on.  I checked her again to make sure nothing else had shifted, and asked her to get up again.  She rose from the bed with a huge smile on her face and said, “I feel so much lighter! I can’t even tell you!” I just smiled and nodded.

I knew in that moment that the four-hour drive was well worth it. I had witnessed a miracle with this young lady, and I felt so humble to be a part of it. I love that feeling of awe that comes with every B.E.S.T. treatment! I made plans to see her again in two weeks….another four-hour drive and another awe filled moment of perfection.

Whenever a betrayal or traumatic event occurs, you will naturally experience associated emotions.  You need to acknowledge these emotions … and the sooner the better. I’m not suggesting that you dig up past emotions (which may be triggered by your current situation).  However, it is important to focus on what you feel … NOW.  This is not an instruction to get stuck in the emotions; rather, for you to acknowledge, experience, and move through them.   

Emotions, both positive and negative, are perfectly normal and healthy. They are natural and valuable aspects of being human. Yet it is possible to get trapped in negative emotions if you to continue to rehash the same story and/or cling to painful memories.

Another way you can get stuck is by avoiding negative emotions. If you are feeling unhappy or burdened, this is not bad – it is simply feedback that something in your life is out of balance, some area is asking for your attention and guiding you to where you need to focus. Negative emotions provide information and directions, like a GPS system.

If you find yourself feeling happy and joyful for no particular reason, this is also feedback; telling you that you are following your inspiration, living your purpose and expressing your passion in life. The experience of “positive” emotions feels good. Therefore, as you naturally gravitate to feeling better—this will guide you toward your inspiration, creativity and authentic joy.  This is a very important concept for you to grasp:  Your emotions, positive and negative, are excellent guides and teachers.

There is no right or wrong here.  These are YOUR emotions, YOUR feelings and YOUR forgiveness journey.  Your emotions will always guide you back to your natural state of joy, bliss and love … pay attention to them.

This is an excerpt from Dr. Lorri’s upcoming book “Finding Freedom Through Forgiveness” and will be covered in depth at her September seminar “The Forgiveness Factor.”  For more information, visit drlorri.com.

I will be celebrating 20 years of marriage this month and I have learned a multitude of lessons in building a successful relationship. All of these lessons have been applicable to every other relationship I’ve encountered: parents, friends, practice members, etc. So, this month, I share my tips for a GREAT Relationship.

Gratitude. Gratitude is a relationship essential.  Whether we want to admit it, or not, we have attracted EVERY relationship to us…the good and the not so good.  Each relationship is presenting an opportunity for us to learn a lesson.  Sometimes the things that drive us crazy in a relationship, actually mirror some of our own behaviors. It is easy to express gratitude for those “easy” relationships. How do you handle the more difficult ones?

Recognize.  Recognize there is only one person in charge of your happiness…YOU!  Along those same lines, you are not responsible for anyone else’s happiness.  This is true for love relationships, as well as our practice members.  We are the vessel…not the cure or, happiness in this example.

Expectations. Expectations have the potential to cripple a relationship.  Expectations are pre-meditated judgments and not to be confused with intentions.  Expectations focus on what you want someone else to do. Intentions focus on what WE are going to do.  This is why Dr. Morter says, “Love them more and expect less.”

Acceptance. Acceptance is key!  Acceptance of who and where they are in their journey. Acceptance of where and who they want to be.  Acceptance of me is just as important.  I have witnessed so many conflicts resolved with this one simple truth. Even in the most heated discussions, when I stop in my mind and remind myself to accept the difference we are discussing, the heat diminishes and the problem dissolves.

Truth…as in speaking your truth.  Speaking your truth may be done verbally, or non-verbally.  If you verbally speak your truth, communicate clearly, precisely and focus on the You in the equation.  You may speak your truth just as loudly without uttering a word.  For this to be effective, we must be completely clear on WHO we are and present ourselves without anticipating a response from another individual or the outcome of a particular situation.

In the end, your relationships, just like everything else, are your choice.  So, why not choose GREAT Relationships?

Gratitude
Recognize
Expectations
Acceptance
Truth