Dr. Lorri (Beaver) Mandekic
Do you know you have the ability to live in joy, bliss and love even when you experience something painful in your life? Whether it is a job lay-off, infidelity or the loss of a loved one, you have the power to learn and grow from everything.
Whenever a betrayal or traumatic event occurs, you will naturally experience associated emotions. You need to acknowledge these emotions … and the sooner the better. I’m not suggesting that you dig up past emotions (which may be triggered by your current situation). However, it is important to focus on what you feel … NOW. This is not an instruction to get stuck in the emotions; rather, for you to acknowledge, experience, and move through them. Emotions, both positive and negative, are perfectly normal and healthy. They are natural and valuable aspects of being human. Yet it is possible to get trapped in negative emotions if you to continue to rehash the same story and/or cling to painful memories.
Another way you can get stuck is by avoiding negative emotions. If you are feeling unhappy or burdened, this is not bad – it is simply feedback that something in your life is out of balance, some area is asking for your attention and guiding you to where you need to focus. Negative emotions provide information and directions, like a GPS system.
If you find yourself feeling happy and joyful for no particular reason, this is also feedback; telling you that you are following your inspiration, living your purpose and expressing your passion in life. The experience of “positive” emotions feels good. Therefore, as you naturally gravitate to feeling better—this will guide you toward your inspiration, creativity and authentic joy. This is a very important concept for you to grasp: Your emotions, positive and negative, are excellent guides and teachers.
There is no right or wrong here. These are YOUR emotions, YOUR feelings and YOUR forgiveness journey. Your emotions will always guide you back to your natural state of joy, bliss and love … pay attention to them.
This is an excerpt from Dr. Lorri’s upcoming book “Finding Freedom Through Forgiveness” and will be covered in depth at her September seminar “The Forgiveness Factor.” For more information, visit drlorri.com.
